I really doubt that there is a person in this world who would never misinterpret nonverbal messages intended or not. Unfortunately I don’t remember any bright story when I would attach different meaning to a message. However, I had one story in my life where I played a role of an unintended nonverbal messenger. I happened when I was about 18 years old. There was a girl in our church. It happened that our glances met few times, so she considered it as a kind of beginning for new relationship. The paradox of this story was that I just started dating my wife, at that time we were just a boyfriend and a girlfriend. As it usually happens, somebody told my girlfriend (she is my lovely wife now) that I’m seeing that other girl, bringing her flower and other things. You probably can imagine what happened after… Fortunately that accident had not influenced relationship with my wife, and the only way to resolve that issue was to talk to the other girl. This story might sound silly, but it is what it is. I believe that the only way to increase the accuracy with people interpret nonverbal messages is turn those to verbal messages and talk.
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